Referendum 74 — Election Day Thoughts on Same-Sex Marriage

By Jean Mavrelis - 11.09.2012

The following blog is written by our friend Michael.

Pre-Election:

As you may know, today the people in the State of Washington are voting on Referendum 74 which will allow same-sex marriages.

I really didn’t think much about the vote but today the whole idea of the referendum is really starting to weigh heavily on me.  I feel very uneasy and it’s hard to concentrate on my daily activities.

The reason why I feel like I am carrying a large sack of rocks on my shoulders today is because my life is hanging in a balance.  Besides myself, there are a great number of people who get to choose which way the scales will tip in regards to the issue of same-sex marriage including my neighbors, friends, coworkers, strangers on the street and people I will never know.

The vote isn’t about allowing same gendered people to marry, but instead it is questioning the validity and authenticity of same-sex relationships.  It is asking people to decide if the validity and authenticity of same-sex marriages are equal in all ways to heterosexual marriages to the point that same-sex couples should enjoy the same benefits equal and afforded to married heterosexual couples.

I don’t like the fact that I know people are voting on the validity of my relationship with my partner.  It is as if my commitment to him is in question and somehow no matter how much I love him or am committed to his well-being, I have to go the extra mile to prove it to others.

When I see a married heterosexual couple I don’t question their commitment to one another.  The fact that they are married declares that they profess a level of commitment to each other that is exclusive and accepted by those around them without question. Read more »