Referendum 74 — Election Day Thoughts on Same-Sex Marriage

By Jean Mavrelis - 11.09.2012

The following blog is written by our friend Michael.


As you may know, today the people in the State of Washington are voting on Referendum 74 which will allow same-sex marriages.

I really didn’t think much about the vote but today the whole idea of the referendum is really starting to weigh heavily on me.  I feel very uneasy and it’s hard to concentrate on my daily activities.

The reason why I feel like I am carrying a large sack of rocks on my shoulders today is because my life is hanging in a balance.  Besides myself, there are a great number of people who get to choose which way the scales will tip in regards to the issue of same-sex marriage including my neighbors, friends, coworkers, strangers on the street and people I will never know.

The vote isn’t about allowing same gendered people to marry, but instead it is questioning the validity and authenticity of same-sex relationships.  It is asking people to decide if the validity and authenticity of same-sex marriages are equal in all ways to heterosexual marriages to the point that same-sex couples should enjoy the same benefits equal and afforded to married heterosexual couples.

I don’t like the fact that I know people are voting on the validity of my relationship with my partner.  It is as if my commitment to him is in question and somehow no matter how much I love him or am committed to his well-being, I have to go the extra mile to prove it to others.

When I see a married heterosexual couple I don’t question their commitment to one another.  The fact that they are married declares that they profess a level of commitment to each other that is exclusive and accepted by those around them without question. Read more »